Please Read!!! Sent My Recent Ex- Fiance a Birthday, She did not even thank me for the gift?

My fiance, whom I dated for more than 4 years left me in June, a day after we had returned from a week long trip in Hawaii. Her only reason was that she needed to find herself and her individuality. I have not heard from her since. I have been seeing a therapist for 3 months now about this, and everyday I am still VERY DEPRESSED about the whole situation. I loved this girl more than anything and was so happy that I was going to build a life with her, even my friends said that she was an %26quot;amazing girl, and that I was so lucky to have her%26quot; . The memories of us, really hurt me when I think about them. Yesterday was her birthday, I sent her a dozen roses, she did not even call or email me to thank me for them, I am still shocked that the woman I was going to marry in March has pretty much erased me from her mind. Was sending flowers the wrong thing to do? This is so out of charcter for her.

Please Read!!! Sent My Recent Ex- Fiance a Birthday, She did not even thank me for the gift?
Hey,


It seems like your ex has moved on. If she regretted her decision to split up with you, (even a little bit) you would have been the first to know. And make no mistake she remains reassured with her decision because she consciously chooses to live the rest of her life without you. keep in mind if there was any regret she would end her agony (if any) with a call. she choose not to call because she is not thinking about you. (i call people when i am thinking about them).


Since she broke up the engagement, it was her place to make the first gesture (even if it was a petition for friendship).


i would not have sent flowers( life is too short to be rejected by the same person twice).


I am very sorry about the broken engagement.


Please remember we are all stronger than we think. After all today is the tomorrow we were afraid to face yesterday.


I too was dumped by my ex-fiance. i was devastated because you couldnt convince me the sun could rise without him. like a dog he returned to the scene of the crime. now i wouldnt take him back if he came giftwrapped!


you will get through it, trust me. I send all my love!
Reply:dude r u sure he wasnt cheating u with someone else?
Reply:it was not the wrong thing to do but if she told you she wanted to find herself let her be she will get back to you at her own time
Reply:Ground rule 1: women are crazy.





Okay with that out of the way. If it%26#039;s been 3 months (at least) since she walked off to find her individuality, you got dumped. Okay? Roses aren%26#039;t appropriate in that situation unless you%26#039;ve still got it in your head that your relationship is just on hold. You%26#039;re dumped and who knows if she%26#039;ll come back? But it%26#039;s a waste of your time to hold onto that and refuse to move on with your life and live it up.





Given a lot of people aren%26#039;t good with cutting the cord and leave strings or open ended possibilities, but that%26#039;s often because they try to spare your feelings (often ends up the exact opposite).





Either way, she%26#039;s moved on, you need to move on too. Don%26#039;t spend the next 5 years of your life thinking she%26#039;ll come back when she %26#039;finds herself%26#039; because even if that%26#039;s what she%26#039;s doing she won%26#039;t be the same person afterwards.
Reply:Maybe she does not deserve you, she obviously did not appreciate you sending her flowers on her birthday gaves me a clear indication that she does not care about you, I know it hurts knowing you was with a person for 4 years and recieving this kind of treatment is not warranted, try and find your self, stand strong, its difficult not to think of her but at the same time you cannot beat up yourself if someone does not apprciates you, that sucks to me, I suggest you give her space and if she still does not want to have anything to do with you, then the best thing to do is to move on with your life.
Reply:your ex figured out that everything you do for her is really for yourself. think this hard. you got her roses in hopes of hearing back from her, and probably in hopes of getting back together. she knows it, and that%26#039;s why you got nothing. zero. nata. If you sent her roses with absolutely no strings, if you sent her roses only because you were thinking of her and how you felt about her, you probably heard back. everything you ever did for her, there were strings. you don%26#039;t see it, but there were strings. women senses these things.
Reply:...sending the flowers was not a wrong idea dude.


Expecting her to respond to you in kind was the wrong idea though.


She%26#039;s obviously got some very high level issues about something that she reasonably has no desire to talk to you about seriously.


Respect that Guitar guy.....no matter what you absolutely are thinking seriously.


Does she owe you a full blown responce really?


Not in her world she doesn%26#039;t dude......but certainly in your world she does alternatively.


Life and love are a risk you take when you set forth your mind with huge aspirations with anyone special my friend......and this one has simply failed to blossum into the thoughts YOU have created out of it seemingly.


Someday she might come back and tell you about why she has left this relationship in such a masterfully anxiety riddled way dude.........but not for now partner....sorry!


Your best manuever right now would be to pull your own ship in order here really....not hers....agreed?


The truth will eventually unfold itself in front of you someday.....just not for now!


Move forwards my friend in your thinking....not backwards.


You%26#039;ll only simply drive yourself insane or crazy wondering about this crap otherwise.


Find peace and tranquility by grieving quietly and un-abusively to yourself my friend.


God has another plan for you coming soon.........and usually it will be somebody better my friend....not someone that leaves you confused and irritated honestly.


Get going now my friend.......before the negative impulses rise up in you further....cool?
Reply:sounds like she has moved on as hard as it is you need to leave her alone


this amazing girl is hurting you
Reply:Dude, you got hosed......big time, the girl just used you for whatever it was she wanted....she got it, and then dumped you off.


You need to let go and move on.........and get it out of your head.
Reply:you say that this is out of character for her...then something must be goin on with her... if you really love her keep trying...you have to descide if she is worth fighting for?....if she is then fight...fight till you have nothing left and then get up and fight some more...somethimes that%26#039;s what some women need...
Reply:Sorry for your pain. Since your relationship ended, you should let it go. Leaving you after your vacationing in Hawaii makes it sound like she was using you. She didn%26#039;t all of a sudden afterwards realize she needed her space. This was coming, for how long I have no idea of knowing that. Four years is a long relationship. No matter what the reason for her to end the relationship, she ended it. She gave you the reason, whether it is true or not, you have no way to know, but she ended it. As far as sending flowers, I would not have done so, but since you did, and have no response, or her calling to say she was wrong to end the relationship, I would now stop trying to contact her. You say you didn%26#039;t get a thank you or a call. That alone is a message to you. She does not wish to be in contact with you. Move on. Please seek therapy to help you through this. You may not believe it now, but you will find love again. It is going to take time to get over this, so let a professional help you. I firmly believe they can. So sorry for your pain.



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