My Ex's Girlfriend's Birthday is Coming Up?

My Ex Girlfriend%26#039;s birthday is coming up early June. Last year, I was with her and bought her a diamond ring. We have been broken up since November 2006. I still love her very very much. It%26#039;s difficult for me to let go. I know that she%26#039;s out there trying to find someone else but hasn%26#039;t. She refers to me as %26quot;The Kid%26quot; which bothers me because I am 38 years old and well lets just say she%26#039;s OLD. lol I did everything for her, buying her gifts and she has done nothing for me except put me down to her friends. I know this sounds crazy but I do love her alot. She won%26#039;t respond to my emails and hasn%26#039;t in months. Should I send her a card some flowers? Just to let her know that I still care about her and love her? OR does not getting her anything or acknowledging her bday a better thing because it makes her realize that what she had is gone? Please help me with this. Thanks.

My Ex%26#039;s Girlfriend%26#039;s Birthday is Coming Up?
If things are like you say they are, I think you need to worry about what is right for you first. Sounds like you need to and are trying to get over this woman, who has not been acknowledging you in any good ways. If you do care and think it is not likely to distress her, maybe you could send her a card or email wishing her a happy birthday and a good life in the future, to leave things on a good note, and move right on. I think don%26#039;t be caught in the past relationship that has gone or worrying about any old game playing with her anymore. Maybe you can find a new gf who loves you for who you are and you can give the gift or your love rather than diamonds and other gifts so much. Good luck.
Reply:step away from the flowers!!!, she will probably be expecting you to send something then show her friends like %26#039;gosh i have told him to leave me alone so many times%26#039; so don%26#039;t send her anything and let her realise what she is missing. if she loves you she will come back but if you dont hear anything then accept it is over. i had the same problem but although a didn%26#039;t want my bf back i enjoyed the attention - which is bad as i now realise but dont let her string you allong for the wrong reasons. lots of girls out there in need of a guy like you, her loss.
Reply:don%26#039;t do anything in her birthday ..


1.she doesn%26#039;t deserve it


2.get over it and go find someone who really loves you


3.if you want her to notice you ..don%26#039; do what u always do (emailing her,texting her,gifts,and stuff)..just disappear in that day ...
Reply:um... hard one... if u love her... get her something to show that u still care for her, but dont give her the ring... save the ring for someone who really deserves it, at this point ur gf doesnt!
Reply:if i were you i%26#039;ll move on . .coz it appears she%26#039;s the one who dumped you .. so if she still got feelings for you she will return to you
Reply:I know how bad this hurts.. Sorry...





As far as flowers, no... What ever you do, do not send anything. You will most likely realize later that paying her so much attention is what drove her away. Meaning, neediness is very anti-seductive.





The biggest thing for you to do is to stop dreaming about her, and find something else to occupy your time. You are seducing yourself by doing this.
Reply:I say make her realize what she once had is gone now and DO NOTHING for her b-day. Even if she is older than u, she is still referrig you to THE KID which is very immature on her part! You may have a hard time letting her go but it will probably be better for you in the future....oh and, you have every right to get the ring back as that symbolizes marriage between 2 people and the courts will make her give it up or pay you for it....one or the other...(if you want it back)
Reply:She%26#039;s leading you on and using you. Sorry, but it%26#039;s the truth. She likes the idea that your into her for her ego but if she treats you like dirt , as much as you like her, she%26#039;s just being a B*tch. Sorry.
Reply:stop trying to buy her she obviously not interested.. listen to %26quot;my un happy aniversary by viamin c and then start afresh.. look 4 someone that will apreciate u
Reply:Dude... you gotta let her go. Having been there and speaking from painful past experience, there%26#039;s not a lot you can do at this point other than cut your losses and move on. The more energy and emotions you throw her way, the faster and harder she will back away. You have no choice at this point but to put this behind you, learn from your mistakes, and find someone new when you%26#039;re ready. Just stop wasting money and energy chasing after someone who%26#039;s gone. Best of luck.
Reply:She isn%26#039;t into you anymore....its hard but its her loss......there will always be someone there for you whom you deserve....
Reply:You are better off stopping all contact with her. She%26#039;s probably getting a good laugh out of the texts and emails. She sounds like a golddigger. My advice is to start seeing other women. There are women who are decent out there. See if they are self supportive, and if so, they won%26#039;t be gold diggers. Or see if the live modestly. If so, money doesn%26#039;t and shouldn%26#039;t mean anything to them, except to pay bills.
Reply:You should find a nice card that says what you would like to say to her and send it. Include a personal note that you hope she has a nice birthday. Don%26#039;t mention that you miss her or want to see her. Just a nice card and a nice note. Maybe she will call to thank you for the card.



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