I am just wanting an opinion of how you may feel. I do not want to make her pain worse. I am sure she is going to visit her sons grave tomorrow because she goes every Sunday. I think the day is going to be hard enough. I don't want to make it worse but my son really wants to get her some flowers. Her son was only 11 when he passed away.
My sons best friend past away 11.29.07 (Day before my sons birthday). Should we get a Mothers day present?
Let your son get her flowers. She will understand and appreciate it, and be touched that someone remembers and cares.
Reply:I think if ur son gave them to her, it would make her day. She will probably cry and hug him, but u have to make sure ur son is aware of that just incase it happens. Tell him to give her a hug back, and to make sure he tells her how much he loved his bestfriend to. Also tell him that he should make sure to tell her he will be there for her for anything she needs. I know this is going to be hard, but giving her something for mothers day will make her remember what a good mother she was and that u will always be there for her.
Reply:I'm so sorry for her loss! I think a mother's day present could possibly not go over so well... but maybe you and your son could get (or make) a card for her. It doesn't have to be about Mother's Day, but maybe just a card to let her know you both care for her and are sharing in her pain.
Reply:Why not take you son to leave a remembrance at the gravesite. Try not to disturb the mother's time there, go before or after.
Offer on another day to relieve the mother of some stress and give her a couple of pleasant hours. Maybe take her to a movie? Dinner at your house? You know her situation better than anyone here.
Reply:Flowers are nice. I'm sure she misses her son dearly, but also his friends. My son's friend lost her sister. I gave her mother an angel coin. They had them at a gift shop. Love, Hope, Faith, Strength, Healing...Many to choose from. They come with a prayer as well. It gave her something to carry all day or put under her pillow... Just another idea.
Reply:This question really saddens me. I personally would get her something, flowers are good enough. Whatever you do, it is going to be a difficult period for her. But in the end I think she would appreciate the flowers.
Reply:If your son was really close to the son, than that would be just fine.
It doesn't particularly matter if you were close to her, but it may help.
She IS still a mother.
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Reply:She'll always be a mother and the fact that your son wants to give her flowers will only make her day better, not worse. It will just be uncomfortable for you. She could never feel any worse. Sounds like your a good person and mother. Happy Mothers Day.
Reply:I think you should allow your son to get her flowers although the day will be hard for her that will mean a lot to her that he is thinking of her. That is very sweet of your son do want to do that!
Reply:I think if your son brings those flowers to her she would appreciate it. she's still a mom and you bet she's going to cry. Tell him he should give her a big hug too. It shows he's got a big heart and he thinks of her as a Mom too.
Reply:thats really sad. :( yes because she is still a mother and cares about her son, but he can't give her a card. :( you made my cry :( that is such a sad story, and that is an incrediably nice thing you are doing! :
Reply:|aww I think you should. It won't make her pain worse but make her feel better. She's still a mom. My mom died of cancer but I still like to celebrate mother's day with my dad and grandmother. It's another way for us to honor her memory.
Reply:bless your sons aching little heart. how verry thoughtfull. i am sure she will appreciate it deeply.it would make me feel like i was still acknoweleged as a mother. im saddened for his and her loss.
Reply:YES we did my mom when my brother past...we put even though you lost derek you are still a mother..I hope this day will be easy for you and you are in our thoughts
even if she lost a child she will always be a mom
Reply:I think that is a wonderful idea, bless your son for caring. It won't make her feel worse, it will make her happy to see your son and get a gift!!
Reply:If that was her only son, I think it would be inappropriate to give her something for mothers day. It seems a little crude to me.
Reply:What a nice gesture. Even though it is painful for her...she will be happy that someone actually remembered that she is and always be a Mother.
Reply:I cant imagine what she is going through. But flowers i think would help. We have all lost someone close.Im sure you'll do your best.
Reply:I think that's a great idea! Even though tomorrow will be a tough day for her, i'm sure she would appreciate the flowers
Reply:omg that's awful give her some flowers and a great big hug and tell her that she will get to meet him again one day
Reply:yes i think that would be great she is still his mother
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